Talk about the communication barriers between men and women, is not inexhaustible. The reason was all sorts, from the scientific to the merely concoct.
Psychology experts from the U.S., Caroline Landau, Ph.D., mentions that the birth of communication breakdowns in a couple, whether it is still dating or already married, again because of differences in vision in the minds of men and women.
"Generally the aim of the man or husband speaks it is to simply divide all the information. Conversely, the desire of the woman or wife to discuss and talk with their partners tend to be more emotional in nature. Not just talk but also sharing," explains Landau.
Therefore, in order to overcome the frictions that arise, according to Landau, it never hurts to plan effectively. Primarily for women who often find it difficult to start talking with their partner or husband.
Here are some effective ways, as told Landau, which can be done by women or wives to their husbands or partners would be a good listener:
- Move closer to your partner when you are feeling or mood of good-good. Fear, if you go to your partner when angry then you have in mind is the desire to attack him. In the end, the couple is not impossible even compelled to be defensive.
- Specify all the goals and whatever you want. For example, if you say to your partner when you just want him to hear everything you say. Do not forget to say that it is not likely you'll ask for advice and opinion. Typically, in such a way the men would try to listen. Yes, who also did not want advice or opinion heard, is not it?
- Develop and hold your feelings in order to help him understand what exactly you expect. For example, you say that: "If you hear like that I'm so glad ."
- Ask what changes would also could be done by him. For example, in discussing financial matters, you ask the couple to discuss the facts first. Then, then you and he's looking for a way out. Fun is not each other shoulder to shoulder.
- Do not forget also to always develop your positive attitude. For example, after the conversation, you would like to thank him who are willing and want to listen to all your complaints and have made you feel calm and relieved.
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