Met for the first time with the prospective in-laws would make excited, embarrassed, and even panic. Well, the best way to convince them is to give a good first impression. This is the trick.
1. Dressed in drag and polite
That is, avoid wearing torn jeans, faded T-shirt, tank top, sexy, or leather jackets for men. Do not wear too short skirts, tight shirts and sexy, and super heels. Remember, this is not the right time for the fashion show. Comb hair with a neat, clean ears and nails, brush your teeth. In essence, perform a simple, clean, neat, and is a bit conservative.
2. Find information
Ask your spouse, what is most disliked by the father and mother. For example, if the father does not like to smoke, leave your cigarettes in the car. Or if the mother does not like boxing, avoid the topic of conversation around boxing.
3. Propitiate
Engaged to someone of different cultures? At the first meeting, a must for you to do something to honor the culture / traditions of the couple. Learn as much as possible about their traditions, especially what to do when you first met. Do you have to shake hands, bowing, kissing the hand, or kiss on the cheek. Ask your partner, how the original language if you want to say "Howdy". Say it right and good and memorize by rote.
4. Being polite
That is, to say "yes" correctly instead of "uh-huh" and do not forget to say "thank you" or "please" at the right time. Do not burp or move your body with no / less polite. Sit a neat and help clean up the dishes / glasses are dirty when you know they do not have servants. Remember, little things you do can greatly imprint in the hearts of future in-laws!
5. Appropriate greeting
Do not make a mistake in mentioning the word greeting. The best thing is to ask your partner, the preference of a good, true, and is preferred by both parents. Do they prefer to be called the "father / mother", "om / tante", or even first names if they are from foreign countries.
6. Bring something
We recommend that you do not come with empty hands. This does not mean you have to bring something expensive and fancy. When you bring something homemade like cake, you will increase the value in the eyes of prospective in-laws.
7. Show interest
By instinct, everyone would prefer someone else if they preferred. Show your attentiveness, interest, and alert. The trick? Note the correct body language. While talking, look at the eyes of prospective in-laws to show that you pay attention to what he said, sitting a good (not too stiff, tense or too relaxed), and give a nod at the right time. Keep your eyes not to stare darting around the room. Do not stamp, do not go back and forth looking at his watch, and do not sit with legs open.
8. Avoid strange and impolite topics
Avoid topics such as politics, religion, or something controversial. Except, if the prospective in-laws did want to talk about the topic. On the other hand, it could be you "tested" by them. Therefore, do not talk when you do not know, future in-laws were on which side. Also, avoid joking that lead or offensive pornography, tell your family kitchen, and a very personal about you. All was not yet time.
9. Being polite, sweet, and good
Show a friendly, courteous, and not excessive in the future in-laws, siblings spouse and household servants. Good attitude that you show has its own value for his parents.
10. Do not contrived and do not pretend
Be yourself. Do not try to imitate the attitudes of others. Show your personality in small doses and efficient. Keep your tone of voice. Do not forget to also sit neatly and well. No less important is the set of breath in such a way. Do not worry, everyone in the room was the same as you, which is undergoing transition.
2. Find information
Ask your spouse, what is most disliked by the father and mother. For example, if the father does not like to smoke, leave your cigarettes in the car. Or if the mother does not like boxing, avoid the topic of conversation around boxing.
3. Propitiate
Engaged to someone of different cultures? At the first meeting, a must for you to do something to honor the culture / traditions of the couple. Learn as much as possible about their traditions, especially what to do when you first met. Do you have to shake hands, bowing, kissing the hand, or kiss on the cheek. Ask your partner, how the original language if you want to say "Howdy". Say it right and good and memorize by rote.
4. Being polite
That is, to say "yes" correctly instead of "uh-huh" and do not forget to say "thank you" or "please" at the right time. Do not burp or move your body with no / less polite. Sit a neat and help clean up the dishes / glasses are dirty when you know they do not have servants. Remember, little things you do can greatly imprint in the hearts of future in-laws!
5. Appropriate greeting
Do not make a mistake in mentioning the word greeting. The best thing is to ask your partner, the preference of a good, true, and is preferred by both parents. Do they prefer to be called the "father / mother", "om / tante", or even first names if they are from foreign countries.
6. Bring something
We recommend that you do not come with empty hands. This does not mean you have to bring something expensive and fancy. When you bring something homemade like cake, you will increase the value in the eyes of prospective in-laws.
7. Show interest
By instinct, everyone would prefer someone else if they preferred. Show your attentiveness, interest, and alert. The trick? Note the correct body language. While talking, look at the eyes of prospective in-laws to show that you pay attention to what he said, sitting a good (not too stiff, tense or too relaxed), and give a nod at the right time. Keep your eyes not to stare darting around the room. Do not stamp, do not go back and forth looking at his watch, and do not sit with legs open.
8. Avoid strange and impolite topics
Avoid topics such as politics, religion, or something controversial. Except, if the prospective in-laws did want to talk about the topic. On the other hand, it could be you "tested" by them. Therefore, do not talk when you do not know, future in-laws were on which side. Also, avoid joking that lead or offensive pornography, tell your family kitchen, and a very personal about you. All was not yet time.
9. Being polite, sweet, and good
Show a friendly, courteous, and not excessive in the future in-laws, siblings spouse and household servants. Good attitude that you show has its own value for his parents.
10. Do not contrived and do not pretend
Be yourself. Do not try to imitate the attitudes of others. Show your personality in small doses and efficient. Keep your tone of voice. Do not forget to also sit neatly and well. No less important is the set of breath in such a way. Do not worry, everyone in the room was the same as you, which is undergoing transition.
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